It is the highest compliment a slut can achieve. These are words that saturate her, blanketing her soul in pride. It is truly earned…yet..it must earned again and again, and the more you hear it the more you crave to hear it again.

Danger. This evokes danger. 
I don’t necessarily want this. I don’t crave it nor fantasise about it. I do however, yearn for a man that has the possibility to take me to this place. Where red lights flash and eyes look towards headlights. I want you to surprise and shock me, taking me somewhere higher in the process. My reactions will thank you for it.
Be the grandmother in the bed with the big teeth and suspiciously hairy kiss. I am looking for a wolf.

"I was recently asked about the intimacy of D/s verse the pain side of play and full time submission (24/7) and what I thought of it. Instead of replying to the ask I decided to post a reply because I wanted to share with My followers and the character limits in the ask would never be enough room. This response has a high probability of going into more details than the person was expecting but I hope she finds all of this helpful.

D/s is the most intimate, real, intense love I have ever felt. How does one become more intimate with another? I think through a process of getting to know the other person (communication) and through shared experiences. Trust is also built by shared experiences where one person consistently does what they say they are going to do and consistently does the right thing. What is the right thing? It is whatever the two people in the relationship agree to. It can be anything, but both parties need to understand and accept it. (Communication)

The more you know and share with another, the more intimate your relationship is. Total Power Exchange (TPE) takes this to a whole new level. Trust above all else is necessary for TPE. Love and respect are important, but trust is critical. When a submissive agrees to TPE they are in effect saying “I have no limits and I trust you will take care of me”. While certain activities would be considered hard limits like fucking a dog or eating shit the submissive’s mind set is such that if the Master asked them to eat shit they would. However, this would most certainly lead to the submissive to questioning the Master’s decision making and it could quite possibly lead to the submissive leaving the relationship. When the Master pushes boundaries in the right way and at the appropriate time, when they fuck the mind as well as fuck the body, then the submissive tends to fall deeper in love with the Master. They want to please and serve even more because they LOVE the mind fuck and they trust their Master to keep them safe. Each experience where the sub crosses into a new territory but where their Master brings them back safely creates a deeper bond; a more intimate bond.

I love the feeling of being in control of My slave’s life. I love knowing she will do anything for Me. I also accept and understand the responsibility that comes with it. Each time we play it gets a little more extreme and each time she craves more than the last time. When I hurt her, she is suffering for Me as a sign of her love. Seeing someone I love endure real pain and discomfort is both a turn on and a heartwarming experience. I don’t get off on hurting her. I get off on having so much control that I can hurt her. The power exchange is what is addicting. Holding her and comforting her while the tears subside. Telling her how much I love her and how proud I am that she is willing to endure this makes her feel good about the experience. Endorphins are racing through her body, her head is in a meditative state, almost high, she feels good and then I reassure her she is safe. We kiss and hug and at that moment we are never more connected emotionally. It’s incredibly intimate. It’s intense, addicting, raw, and so pleasurable. This TPE relationship is the most intimate relationship I have even been in. I crave to know everything about lil one. How she thinks, how her body reacts to different stimulation, what she likes and dislikes for food, everything. TPE pushes Me to know her better than she knows herself. It pushes her to know Me very well too. She has dedicated her life to serving Me. That’s a lot of work. She knows My different moods, how I like to be touched and when, what I like to eat, how I like My shirts ironed…and the list goes on and on. We are two halves of a whole…each of us is not complete without the other. Lots of vanilla relationships claim this to, and I don’t disagree, but D/s raises the intensity. It’s like riding the roller coaster instead of the farris wheel.

D/s requires very honest communication as well. In fact, I credit D/s for making Me a much better communicator today than I was 15 years ago. What sometimes seems like obstacles that cannot be overcome do in fact get resolved when two committed people communicate and keep communicating no matter how long or hard until an agreement is reached. These obstacles will bring you closer together when they are settled. It’s another shared experience and makes your relationship more intimate.

In My opinion, a healthy D/s relationship is way more intimate than a vanilla one. It’s more intense too. I know now I could not go back to a vanilla relationship… it would seem boring to Me. D/s is not easier and in fact it’s harder than a vanilla relationship in some ways. But the rewards… ohhh the splendors of being in a healthy, loving, TPE relationship are unparalleled. It’s the most amazing thing I have ever experienced." - amaster

You may think, at first, that it’s the cold mental locking around your neck that proves that I own you. You’d be wrong. It isn’t that at all - that’s just a passing symbol, a convenient way to bring the reality home. Cast it aside any day you want - it won’t change a thing.

It isn’t the collar. It’s that feeling inside. That feeling that doesn’t go away. That feeling that now you belong somewhere - with me. That now your actions are reflective of me. That now your goals must all be for me.

That now you are rooted, held, contained. That now you have purpose. That now you are anchored. That you are not free to go where you will, do as you will, speak as you will, believe as you will. That now there is a greater truth than the silliness of your own thoughts and feelings - me.

I am your center, I am your compass, I am your path. I am your Will. You may rebel, or fight, or break the rules… but in doing so you only contradict, and harm, yourself. I am the forces of nature, I am gravity, I am truth… you may deny me for a time, but you can no more escape me than you can escape the surface of the earth.

This is what being owned means. This is what being mine means. This is where your submission has lead you. There is no freedom from me now, for there is no part of your world that isn’t already me.